I heard something today that I wanted to respond to.
While discussing gay marriage, someone said, "Okay, take your religion out of it and tell me why you are opposed to gay marriage."
Unfortunately, I wasn't the person who was asked this question. My response would have been as follows:
No.
I will *not* take my religion out of it. My religion is the single most important thing in my life. It is in every decision in my life, or at least I want it to be. Asking me to take my religion out of an issue like this is very much like asking me to take away my desire to live, and then explain why I'm opposed to nuclear war. It's like telling me to ignore my desire to provide my own livelihood, then explain why I'm opposed to Communism.
That's called checking my religion at the door, my friend.
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints has been very open and clear about our stance on gay marriage: we oppose it. I wholeheartedly embrace that stance. I will be honest that I do not know all the reasons behind it, but that hasn't kept me from obeying any other commandment (great example: why is coffee bad? I couldn't tell you--but I believe the church is true, and I believe it's a commandment to not drink coffee. Ergo, I don't drink coffee). From a religious standpoint, then, we believe that gay marriage is wrong, and furthermore that homosexual relations are wrong. In point of fact, we believe that *any* sex act outside of a marriage (between a man and a woman) is wrong--from porn and masturbation all the way up to sex outside of marriage. Somewhere on that continuum of things we do not support is homosexual activity. Allowing these people to marry one another is condoning those actions, which I cannot and will not do. It also adds a new and complex layer to our social fabric-what happens if they want to join our church? We do not support divorce (Call me old-fashioned if you must. I won't argue), and yet we would be forced to recommend it as a necessary action before baptism can happen.
From a religious standpoint, particularly in our church, I see no room to argue. We do not support it. Some of my friends in the church have spoken out in favor of it, and it pains me. I can see no way to reconcile that difference. I am trying very hard not to judge those people; I know they have trials and circumstances that are different than mine and of which I am unaware. If I'm honest, I have to admit that I see them getting sucked in to exactly what we were warned against all the way back in 1995, when our church released the Proclamation to the World on the Family.
Finally, since the question was asked, I do believe that there are reasons that are not exactly religious to oppose gay marriage. If people are concerned about gay couples not getting the same treatment as married couples in legal affairs, perhaps there is room for improvement in that part of the law. Perhaps two people who live together and depend on each other should get more legal benefits than they do now, regardless of their romantic connection with each other. That, I could support. If people are concerned about tax benefits for gay couples compared to married couples, I think there is a fundamental difference; one of the main things that distinguishes married couples from gay couples is the potential for children--even though this is a fading trend, I believe that the vast majority of marriages are intended to produce children. I think the favorable tax treatment given to married couples is intended to subsidize that, and I don't think gay couples should get the same subsidization. A case could be made for some tax credit being given to gay couples, but even that I would not support unless some help was also being given to other similar pairs or groups of people who live together and depend upon each other; for example, I know of a pair of elderly sisters who have moved in together. I would support giving them more tax benefits than they probably get, and I suppose similar benefits could be extended to gay couples. In my mind, this would fix the real issues that gay rights groups are trying to tackle with the marriage issue.
Finally, there is the prevalent argument that gay people should be able to marry those whom they love. I will admit that this is a difficult argument. I must first say that I don't believe for a second that the leaders of this movement actually have love in mind at all--political agendas and the tax/legal implications mentioned above have much more to do with it, in my mind (Don't get me wrong, the leaders of most groups are subject to the same sins, but that's for another post). Still, many of the rank-and-file supporters believe strongly in this argument. At the same time, there are a great many people I love that I should not be allowed to marry. Thankfully, I personally would not be interested in marrying most of them, but that is not to say that others might not want to, and if we allow people to get married based only on love, who is to say that they can't?
Marriage is for a man and a woman. It has among its foundational concepts and purposes the creation of children. Anecdotal evidence about specific cases of a child raised by same-sex parents aside, I believe a child has better chances of being more well-rounded and more adaptable when they have been raised by a mother and father, not two people of the same gender. Sex is not just for fun, it is the power to create life, and whether you believe in God or not, I don't see how you can take that power lightly. I don't support subsidizing relationships between two people of the same sex, so they can use the power to create life for nothing but personal indulgence. Old-fashioned? You bet it is.
So is Sinatra music.
